Six behaviors that kill relationships

To be in love may be easy, but maintaining a relationship definitely isn't. Why love fades, and people in relationships grow apart is one of life's great mysteries. What prevents us from keeping the passion, attraction, admiration, and closeness we once felt for our partner? We don't realize our toxic habits or behaviors until we get into a relationship. By the time we do, the damage is done. These behaviors may help you recognize your or your partner's behavior early and rectify it.

• Controlling – Today, people aren't able to detach themselves from their professional behavior, which leads to a failed relationship. In your professional life, you may have a leading position and may have a habit of controlling everything under you, but outside the office, people aren't working under you, and it's you who need to realize this. Controlling is not even welcomed in professional life, then please don't expect to do that in your personal life. You are equals in your personal life. If you want an eternal relationship, stop controlling your partner.

• Still enjoying singlehood - Even after being in a relationship, some behave like we are still single. There could be various reasons for it. However, one of the common reasons is that you have been single for a long time and that despite being in a relationship, you may behave as if you are available. You need to realize that when you are in a relationship, things change. Some people change friends over partner every weekend and spend maximum time with their folks. This is not good for a flourishing relationship. Instead, spend time with your partner. So when you are in a relationship, leave behind your singlehood behavior and act responsibly.

• Financial Independence – This may apply to couples who are in a long term commitment or living together. Another behavior that creates a problem in a relationship is managing one's finances. When you are single, it is good to manage and look after your finances. However, when you are in a relationship, everything changes. It would help if you changed your thoughts from 'my finances to 'our finances.' If you fail to make this transition, you would be sending a wrong signal to your partner. They might think that you are not committing to a relationship and still have doubts.

• Reacting and not responding - When you are in a relationship, there will be criticism. Your partner may not like your certain habits and may feel free to let you know what they think of it. Now, if you respond to them, you will have a healthy relationship. However, if you react to it, you will push them away from you. You should be open to criticism, suggestions, and ideas.

• Excess Criticism – Two people won't have similar habits or behaviors. They have their thoughts and ways to respond to a situation. Just because you have a particular pattern doesn't mean your partner should also have it. The idea of a relationship is to accept the person the way they are. You have fallen in love with them for who they're. If you criticize a person all the time, you are ruining a relationship.

• Running away from fights - No one likes to fight, but it is a part of the relationship. However, there will be differences between both of you. Whenever those differences surface, it is best to talk it out. It's important that you respect each other's opinions and don't let small differences and grievances pile up to explode and relinquish your relationship one sad day.

Many other such points may ruin your relationship. So, to have an eternal relationship, avoid such thoughts and behaviors. After all, you both should work towards making a successful relationship.

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