7 Signs someone can’t be trusted
- lifeandmotivation
- Oct 19, 2020
- 3 min read
Updated: Mar 3, 2023
Don't ignore the warning signs! Know when someone is untrustworthy and understand what to watch for with this informative guide on identifying several red flags that suggest they can't be trusted. Trust is one of the essential factors in our lives. Whether it is a friendship or a relationship, all bonds are built on trust. It takes many years to build trust, but it can break in a second. It's been said that the only way to tell if you can trust someone definitively is to trust that person. Ironic right?
While that may be true, certain behaviors that untrustworthy people almost always exhibit will help you mitigate the damage they may cause. If you are doing business and establishing relationships with trustworthy people, you will weather nearly any storm.
So how can you spot some who is not trustworthy? There are a few warning signs that we may have observed in untrustworthy people. Usually, these come in combinations of two or three consistent behaviors. Spot these, and you will know beforehand that this is not a person you should be putting a whole lot of faith in.
Disrespectful – We treat others the way we would like to be treated, right? Wrong. Although some of us might follow this code of ethics, some, unfortunately, don’t treat you in a way you want to be treated. They may continuously insult you (not in fun back and forth banter but more in underhanded remarks) or make you feel less than. Recognize this behavior that this person has little or no respect for you. Respect is earned and shared. If it shows, walk away, and do not waste your energy on this person.
Always Lying - We always expect people around us to be truthful and honest. If someone is lying to you and you witness them doing it not only to you but to others, do not ignore this. One small lie can lead to even bigger ones, and you will soon be the fly caught up in a spider’s web. If you are experiencing this with someone, then start ignoring that person because they cannot be trusted.
Secrets – Are you dealing with someone who is very secretive, and their nature leaves you unsure? Someone who hides something from you that concerns you or hides many things from you can be dangerous because you will be skeptical of that person’s behavior, and later on, you will land in trouble because of that nature. Do not trust someone like this. Secrets only make things cloudy.
Doesn’t Communicate – We often try hard to get someone to open up, but no matter how hard you try, some people will still be a closed book. If someone doesn’t communicate and won’t open up, they most likely cannot be trusted.
Controlling - Control is a very dangerous sign because control can lead to abuse. Someone who feels the need to be in control will always want the upper hand, leaving you with little to no voice. Please do not trust an over-controlling person because you will only be their puppet.
Selfish - Someone who only takes and takes without ever giving will only leave you feeling empty. Let that person go. They will only drain you.
They breach confidentiality – There shouldn’t be any compromise on this point. Once someone has broken a pledge of confidentiality or aired out something you may have confessed in secret to the,, there is no second chance because that person has already demonstrated a desire to gain favor with others more significant than his or her respect for you.
It can be super tricky to spot a manipulative and untrustworthy person since they know exactly what to say to convince you. But if you're in a situation that feels unsafe — or if they're exhibiting any of these characteristics — trust your gut, reach out for help, and try to get away as soon as you can.
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